Anyone who's seen the first movie knows the quote I'm about to reference. "Why is it we're willing to write our own vows, but not our own rules." Throughout that entire movie, that is the one moment that stood out to me. Yes, Charlotte crapping her pants was absolutely hysterical, watching Carrie rise from the ashes of a broken life was beautiful and heartwarming, seeing Miranda run to Steve on the bridge made me bawl my eyes out, and yes, I nearly peed my pants when Samantha threw sushi at Smith. But that one moment at the end, that made an impact on me.
Everyone has been through a breakup, everyone knows it sucks. My most recent experience has definitely been the hardest to get over. You spend enough time with someone, they grow to be a substantial part of your life. Then you get serious and talk about the future. You make plans, you talk about a home and a family, where you're going to spend the holidays. You save every movie stub, every letter, every token of devotion, so that thirty years from now, when your children are rifling through the attic and they stumble upon a nondescript little box, you can recap the story of your love.
Then the unthinkable happens. The fights become more frequent. It's never any one person's fault, it's simply a matter of life revealing that despite your most fervent desires, it just isn't meant to be. You cry, you vent, you get angry, you attempt to get over it. Then after some time, the epiphany comes. It simply wasn't meant to be. It's not a negative reflection on either person, neither of you fell worse for the ware, if anything, you grew from the experience. You come to appreciate all you learned from the relationship, and when people ask what happened, you reply with a simple, "It just didn't work out. They're a great person, and we're just exploring different paths."
The only remnants from the relationship are kept in a nondescript box that you were saving for your kids to rifle through. What now? Do you throw away all the movies you watched together? Toss your favorite sweater just because it's what you wore on your first date? Do you avoid going to the best coffee house within a twenty mile radius because it's where you two talked about kids for the first time?
No. You don't. You reclaim all your favorite things as your own. Take back the power from the broken relationship and realize that you had a life before him and you'll have a life after him. All your favorite things were there prior to him entering your world. Or as Carrie Bradshaw so eloquently said, why can't we make our own rules? And if Serendipity didn't love me enough, this article popped up on my Yahoo page, thus validating my belief in recapturing my world.
http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/breakup-recovery-101-five-rules-you-must-follow-520785/
High five, you are awesome.
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